I have a Facebook Group called Financial Independence: It's All About The Attitude. If you're not a member, go and request to join because there's some seriously good stuff in there to help you on your path to financial independence. And now there will be EVEN MORE things in there because...
There are two new contributors to the group!
I am no longer coaching or mentoring in any form. I will be blogging and my website is slowly becoming the hub that I want it to be. My focus from here is to CONNECT people with the resources & support they’re looking for and, true to form in my life, stuff has happened since I put the article/message out.
I’ve met a lot of coaches / mentors / authors / experts in the last few years who know an awful lot of stuff and who provide the most incredible support & who are committed to making a difference in the world in all sorts of ways - health, fitness, financial, personal development, mental health, relationships, business, real estate, spiritual, emotional, and so many others ways – and my website will provide an easy connection to them for other people. In talking to some of these other people, it became obvious that I can still provide the kind of education to this group that I’m committed to providing without actually doing it myself (duh!). To that end, I approached two friends and asked them if they’d like to get involved and they jumped at the chance. Tamsin Young and Merryl Seibert both have decades of experience in off-line coaching and both are newbies at the whole Facebook thing. Jumping into this group is a win-win for all of us, for sure. Over the next few days/weeks, you’ll see more stuff from them in the group plus I’ll still be around, too.
I’ve also created my own social network platform! In other words, I have my OWN version of Facebook on my website! How cool is that? I feel uncomfortable on Facebook for several reasons: the lack of notifications, weird things appearing on my newsfeed and the amount of ads, among other things. So, I’ve established my own social network and it literally works like every other social network: you log in, there’s a newsfeed/homepage, there are groups, photos, videos, you can friend people, unfriend them, message them, whatever. The advantages are huge: no one is listening to you, no one is deciding what you do and don’t see, you can post without fear of all your extended family and vague acquaintances seeing what you’re writing. Over the next few months, a number of the coaches & experts that I know will be establishing their own pages & groups on the network so the resources on there will keep on growing. I’m not suggesting that we all go on there instead of Facebook, but it is a safe, closed, protected space that will allow us more freedom of expression.
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I’d love to hear your thoughts on all of this, let me know.
The ultimate aim in financial freedom is twofold:
- create a mindset that allows you to live a life of freedom
- create an income that you receive without having to put in time or effort.
True financial freedom is about being able to live in such a way that you feel totally free to do whatever you want to do, right? Free to travel, play, have fun, spend time with your family, go places, do things, have whatever you want to have. Total and complete freedom to just live the kind of life you've always dreamed of living.
Take a look at your life right now. The likelihood is that you're exchanging all your time to earn not very much money.
The likelihood is that you feel trapped and frustrated. That's probably why you're reading this article and on this website, right? To move from the trapped frustration and into freedom & choice? Your effort needs to be divided: work on your mind, OPEN your mind to the possibility of doing things in a different way, while creating ways of allowing more money into your life. Right now, it's highly likely that the only way you're receiving money is through some kind of work, and you've got to keep doing the same amount of work to carry on receiving that money. To be financially free, you must create income that might require work at first but eventually become residual income: income that you receive whether you do any 'work' to get it or not. A normal job isn't ever going to be a residual income: if you don't work, you don't get paid. This distinction is one of the keys to being financially free: create passive/residual income streams.
The residual income streams might be real estate investments or blogging or affiliate marketing or writing a book or renting out a spare room on AirBNB, it might be a vending machine of some kind or part or full ownership of a business that doesn't need much input such as a laundromat. It's highly likely that you're going to have to start small and work your way up so have some kind of plan in place, some path that you want to take doing this first to get some cash behind you, then invest that in the next step up, then the next step and so on. You don't have to stick to the plan, but at least you've got a clear idea that you can get there, right?
What path are you going to take to get to where you want to go? What will your residual portfolio look like? Mine has always been predominantly in real estate because I like real estate. I'm also working on a few affiliate marketing things that you'll hear more about soon, I have a book that is sitting there, waiting to go to market (I'm thinking September for the launch). It's taken me quite a while of hard work to get to this point and, of course, everything happens at once! But my priority is to establish income streams that allow me to do the things I want to do, when I want to do them. So, what can you do to start creating residual income? You may only have a few hours to put into this each week right now (trust me, I know about that one), but let me make this clear: if you don't put effort into creating residual income, you will never be financially free. Instead of watching TV or scrolling through social media, spend the time researching, looking at opportunities, BUILDING YOUR EMPIRE. I know you're tired, exhausted, drained, you're sick of things and you need some time to yourself, but that's never going to change, not while you're exchanging your TIME, and therefore your LIFE, for money. Do it another way: put aside a few hours a week to begin creating residual income. There's no other way to do it.
So, how are you going to do this? What is your residual income going to look like? I'd love to know.
There is a difference between Financial Independence and Financial Freedom. Suze Orman, author and wealth coach, describes it this way: "A big part of financial freedom is having your heart and mind free from worry about the what-ifs in life."
In all the years that I’ve been on this path of wealth creation and abundance, learning what I could, doing personal development courses, reading books, attending seminars, everything, heading surely towards financial freedom and a life of abundance and luxury, something that escapes many people (including us) is actual INDEPENDENCE from money. Independence from our money stories. Independence from money worries. Independence from anxieties and concerns. Independence from our fears around money. We do all the work, we do the vision boards, we journal, we develop ourselves, we do affirmations, we work on our stuff and letting go of things, replacing our beliefs, doing something different. We do all sorts of things but one thing we don’t aim for is INDEPENDENCE. Freedom, financial or otherwise, has been touted round for years and is synonymous with get-rich-quick schemes and scams now. But getting rich, whether that’s quickly or not, will not change our day-to-day experience with money, regardless of how much we have.
The only way to change our day-to-day experience, and from there our ability to create the kind of life we want to live is to have total INDEPENDENCE around money. To not be concerned about how much money is in our bank accounts. To not be worried about where our money is going to come from. To KNOW that we can create what we want to create, when we want to create it. To KNOW that we live in total abundance and that our fears are the only thing that stop us. We think that “financial freedom” will do all that, we think that if only we had a million dollars… ten million… a hundred million in the bank… then we’d be okay… then we’d be financially free… then we’d feel good… then we wouldn’t worry about money… then we could relax and enjoy life. That’s how it is, isn’t it? We think that the problem is that we don’t have enough money and if we did just have enough money, then everything would be good and we could concentrate on other things.
That’s not how it works. If you don’t become INDEPENDENT from money, if you don’t release your fears, beliefs and anxieties around money, they’re going to stay with you no matter how much money you have.
This isn’t just a mindset thing. Our fears and anxieties stop us from taking care of our money. We’ve all stuck our heads in the sand and not balanced our books because we don’t want to look at the awful truth, right? We all avoid things that we don’t like. If we want INDEPENDENCE, we have to be able to take care of our money and not have it affect us emotionally. We have to take responsibility for our money. We have to respect our money, just like we respect ourselves or our loved ones. We have to care about it… But not be attached to it. Not see it as finite. Not see it as scarce.
So, we work on our minds – our beliefs and fears – as well as day-to-day practicalities. We can’t do one without the other, it won’t work. This is about INDEPENDENCE, separating ourselves from our fears and beliefs, putting structures in place to support ourselves and creating a powerful freedom for ourselves around money.
We can budget, we can manage, we can learn how to make extra money, we can work two, three or four jobs, we can scrimp & scrape, count the pennies, work smarter not harder...
But until we take control of the thoughts that are running around in our heads, we are NEVER going to be wealthy or financially independent. Never.
Getting to financial independence, financial freedom, wealth, rich, living a life of freedom and choice...
...is 90% in our minds. It's literally all about the attitude.
The other 10% is in our daily actions.
Where do you put your focus? Maybe it's time to put the effort elsewhere...
It's all about the attitude!
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That sounds like a weird question, but it’s not. Surprisingly, succeeding can be as terrifying as failure, particularly around something like being wealthy, getting rich or having lots of money.
Because going from being a normal, ‘poor’, blue- or white-collar worker to being wealthy will change everything.
It will change everything for you and your life, but it will also change who you are for other people. It will change the way they see you and, quite possibly, it will change their whole attitude towards you.
At least, that’s one of the things you might be scared of. It was one of my blocks: I was afraid of being ostracised from my working-class extended family because I was now one of those rich, fat cats who have made their money on the back of the poor, downtrodden workers.
Today’s exercise: journal about what the downsides of being rich are for you, what are the negatives, what are you scared of?
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One of the things I love about going on a cruise or to a resort, in fact, going on a holiday of any kind, is doing new things.
So far, I've got a series of acupuncture/reiki sessions booked in to take care of my physical & mental well-being. Over the last week or so, I've had more and more fluid retention. I don't know what's going on there but I want to get it sorted now. This is my treat for me.
Actually, no, I need to reframe that: this is me looking after myself. It's something that I need to do if I'm going to function at the level at which I want to function. It's absolutely necessary.
We don't think of it like that, do we? We tend to think of looking after ourselves as something that's way down the list of priorities; we have much more important things to do, right? And it's not until something goes horribly wrong that we begin to take stock and adjust our thinking & actions to take into account that fact that if we don't look after ourselves physically, mentally & emotionally, pretty soon we're not going to be able to do anything.
This is something that I've always struggled to get my head around, to be honest, but the only analogy that kind of works for me is this: if I had a horse and I didn't feed it properly, I didn't give it any attention, I gave it a massive workout each day, expecting it to do whatever I wanted it to do, I never really brushed it, I ignored any limps or soreness it showed, I kept it going even though I knew it was exhausted... I'd be hauled up for animal cruelty, right?
None of us would have any hesitation at reporting someone for treating an animal like that.
Yet we do it to ourselves all the time.
We don't feed ourselves well. We don't exercise properly. We make ourselves keep going even though we're exhausted. We don't get enough sleep. We force ourselves to do things. We're not kind to ourselves. The list goes on.
So, for me it's rejuvenation time. I'm doing the acupuncture/reiki thing and I've also signed up to do a lot of "adrenaline" activities, which actually might not be the best thing for me from a lot of people's view points but to me, it's expansive. The weather is windy and the boat is rocking away (heaven)...
...ship, sorry, SHIP, not boat! I keep being corrected by slightly offended nautical people.
Ship, boat, whatever.
Anyway, today I'm doing a Virtual Reality game thing and tomorrow I'm doing a segway race & a very long, very high flying fox/zipline. I'm so looking forward to that one: I love ziplines! I'll post photos.
Now, think about this: this post might look as though it has nothing to do with money.
It has EVERYTHING to do with money!
However you are in the rest of your life is how you are in money...
Only magnified 10-fold.
What works for you in life in general, will work for you in money...
Only magnified 10-fold.
For me, I have to stop and take care of my money, and treat it kindly. I also have to be very adventurous and get that adrenaline rush when I do something that pushed my boundaries.
And I have to figure out a way to meld those two things into a cohesive whole. There is a way, it's just a fine line to tread, that's all.
When I bring those two experiences to money, everything flows. That's when I receive easily & effortlessly.
So, take a look at yourself: when is it that you feel like life flows? Can you remember a time when life flowed?
Let me just say something here. Less than two years ago, I simply couldn't imaging being happy, powerful, wealthy or anything ever again despite having done an awful lot of things in the past. Even if you've never done anything to create wealth or do what you want to do in life before, you can start now, it's never too late and it's never too hard, if you want to do it.
So, how can you manage your money & create more income in a way that excites and inspires you?
This is one of the questions that I'm asking myself this week (in between acupuncture sessions, ziplines and segways, lol)
Let me know what yours are.
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We all dream of winning the lottery or waking up one morning and finding $10m in our bank account or something because if that happened, we'd be happy right?
But what goes through your mind when you receive money now? What do you say when you look at your pay cheque?
Do you jump for joy?
Do you feel incredibly grateful that you've received that money?
Do you feel so happy that the money is in your account?
Or do you say something like "Oh my god, I can't believe there's so little, it's just not enough."
Or "What am I going to do? This won't pay the bills."
Or "Oh, this is a disaster, I can't cope with this any more."
Remember, the more energy you put into something, the more of that thing you get.
Are you happy when you receive money?
What do you say to yourself? Let me know
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Hi! I’m Karen O’Connor, hormonally-challenged, menopausal writer, blogger, self-confessed sarcasm enthusiast, mother of 4, wife of 30 years, destroyer of souls... no, wait, that's just in the mornings...