The world is a mirror…
Who you are creates the space for others to step into.
Another way of saying it is the world is a reflection of you.
Who you are being - the mood you are in, your expectations of the situation, your energy - dictate not just how you behave but also how the other person behaves.
We all REACT to each other. If we believe someone doesn’t like us, thinks badly of us or is suspicious of us, we act differently to if we believe someone likes us.
If you say something to someone and they start yelling at you, your reaction will be different to if they’d listened to you and agreed with you.
We’ve all walked away from situations where we’ve said to ourselves “I really didn’t handle that well”.
We allowed whatever was going on in our heads, and it definitely wasn’t something feel good, to come across in our energy, the other person picked it up, we started behaving even more out of alignment and things got out of hand.
To put it bluntly, we were in a crap mood, the other person reacted to that and began behaving in a way that inflamed our already heightened negative awareness and we let rip.
We’ve all done it: we’ve had a bad day, the partner has walked in, said something completely innocuous and we’ve taken it the wrong way and launched into full blown marital dispute.
Whatever is going on in your head will be highlighted in your world because that’s what your mind is focused on.
The teacher who thinks the class doesn’t like her will find absolute proof that the class doesn’t like her. One child will say something, she’ll blow it all out of proportion and now the class definitely don’t like her. She’s actually created it in reality where it didn’t actually exist before.
The horse rider who thinks that her horse is nervous is on edge whenever she goes down a tree-lined lane in windy weather because she knows her horse is going to shy. The horse picks up the riders’ anxiety and spends the entire ride on high alert for danger, shying at every rustling leaf. She created something that may not have existed.
Most people would probably easily believe the story about the rider because we all know how sensitive animals are.
I suspect humans are even more sensitive.
We’ve just trained ourselves not to be aware in our conscious minds.
Somewhere deep in our subconscious, we’re totally aware of exactly how each and every person around us is feeling. You can put some of it down to body language but I suspect we pick up things at an energy level that we’re completely unaware of and we react to it.
Children can tell if their parent is in a bad mood when they walk through the door of their house.
“You could cut the atmosphere with a knife”
If you want someone to behave badly, expect them to behave badly. Almost every time, they’ll step straight into that expectation.
If you expect someone to argue with you, they’re highly likely to argue with you.
It’s not always true, but for the most part you get exactly what you expect to get. People behave how you expect them to behave: it’s what you’re looking for and it’s what they pick up.
Which means that you have the power to change how people behave simply by changing your energy, your expectations and who you are around them…
It’s incredible when you do this, when you change who someone is and how they behave just by changing who you are around them.
Try it. Let me know how you go on.